People always claim to be good people. Well, not everyone can be a good person. Not everyone is as nice as they say. Are they lying to you so that you will like them or are they lying to themselves because they are ashamed of the truth?
"I'm only human" is the universal tagline for "I make mistakes, I suck and I plan on lying about it."
Because really, who actually wants to come clean with all their shit? Who wants to admit to themselves that they suck and are the worst? Therefore, we work tirelessly denying and lying and spinning our stories so that some stranger will think we are a good person. It's completely exhausting. It's so tiresome to be good, or to even pretend to be good. Human beings as a race are built to sin, fail, do wrong, whatever you want to call it.
These days people are weak and tender. They become offended at the smallest thing. Thin skinned pussies.
It's annoying. So, we have to apologize for who we are and how we feel. I don't want to anymore.
I'm not sorry. I won't apologize. It is not my fault that you can't handle the truth.
Because I do not lie. I have no need to. And if the truth hurts you, too bad.
That is something you need to come to grips with. By all means, you are more than welcome to criticize me. I would never hate you for it, unless you lie about it. I know my faults, more than anyone. I live with them every day.
"I don't judge." This is an awesome statement, that while well-intentioned, can never be true. No matter how much you want it to be. We are a shitty species, humans. We are hypocritical and mean.
I don't want to judge you. And if I do, it doesn't mean it changes how I feel about you. Because all though I don't like or agree with what you do or say, I will always defend your right to it.
I have ugly thoughts about people all the time because of how they look and what they wear, their teeth, the stupid shit that comes out of their mouths and how they behave. I sit on my high horse occasionally. But truthfully a minute goes by and I realize that has not changed my opinion of you. Because I have just as many, if not more flaws and I'm positive you've had an ugly thought about me once or twice. And I'm okay with that.
I am guilty of any number of sins and hypocritical contradictions. BUT dammit at least I will own up to that shit. I can't very well sit back and deny that I'm a liar.
But the 2 worst possible things I can think of that a person can be guilty of is vanity or arrogance. While I have a tendency to presume myself better than others on some level, I wouldn't say that out loud. There is speaking the truth because it needs to be said and then, there is just plain mean. I try not to be mean.
But, I cannot stand people who outwardly promote themselves. Are you so pathetic that you cannot allow your merits to stand on their own?? Must you really announce to the world how awesome you are???
A word to the wise: The more you tell me how awesome you are, the less likely I am to believe it. If you are confident in your product, you shouldn't have to over-sell it. The quality will show and sell itself.
It is my belief that there are two types of people who are self-promoters: the sad cat who feels like people think poorly of him so he has to talk himself up to convince himself and others that he is in fact worthy and then the DB who may actually be a pretty awesome guy but feels like he has to constantly remind people of the fact. And that my friends is pathetic.
I'm sure I will have more thoughts on this again soon.
